Showing posts with label addiction. Show all posts
Showing posts with label addiction. Show all posts

Thursday, April 3, 2025

Perspective Matters

$1,104,912.08

A person that makes this amount of money per year is in the top 0.1% in the whole world!

Now, what if you made this, after taxes, each month?  Well, you would be a defensive lineman in the NFL who is, as of April, 2025, the 10th highest paid player at his position.

Currently this player is in a contract negotiation dispute with his employer because he is entering the last year of his contract and he, in one key statistical category, did the best of anyone in the league.  Apparently there’s been some offense because his employer went public with comments saying that this player should be happy with what he’s been offered.

In what world can someone say that he deserves to earn more than $21 million/year?  In a world that includes his little circle and those who want to talk about it (the gigantic sports world).

In much more subtle ways, each of can easily get caught up in our own little world.  We feel trapped by the world that we create around us.  Whether it’s one of luxury and fame or whether it’s a world of suffering and struggle.  When we’ve convinced ourselves that there’s no way out or that this will be our situation until the day we die or that we’re alone, we start doing anything we can to find temporary ways to escape this world.  This is why people from of all socio-economic categories are susceptible to lose hope.  The rich and the poor, the famous and the average all give us examples of depression, loneliness, and addiction to drugs, alcohol, pornography, attention, etc.?

Like our friend in the NFL mentioned above, the only logic we see is from very limited viewpoints; viewpoints that either feed our pride or convince us that we’re worthless (which is another form of pride).  Just like it’s easy for us to see how ridiculous it is for a person to squabble over whether he makes $21 million or $25 million each year, I’m here to tell you that you are not trapped in whatever situation you find yourself in.

How do I know?  Well, because I felt trapped (and still do, to smaller degrees) when I pridefully determined to get out of a debilitating sexual sin problem ON MY OWN.  I could have stayed in this little world, surrounded myself with cultural voices that say that I should just pursue more porn or that I should explore whatever sexual thought I had to be “true to myself.”  Instead, I was found out by my wife of, at the time, 10 years, confessed my wrong doing, and for the first time told someone how it was weighing me down and causing me heartache.  Finally, I was starting to gain a much more accurate and healthy perspective.

Assuming that nobody from the top 0.1% of the world is reading this, I’ll use the ultra-rich as an example of why we need to get a better (and bigger) perspective?  After hovering around $4 million/year from 2015-2021, the average Major League Baseball salary has slowly climbed to over $5 million/year in 2025.  I’m sure many Major Leaguers actually do maintain perspective, live well within their means, and spend most of their life using this money to do other things that they enjoy or to give to many things that they have a passion for.  Similarly, you and I, no matter what struggle we feel we’re trapped in, or what life situation we can’t see a solution to, can still gain perspective.  We can broaden our friend-base, look to God and the Bible for the things that are most important, and start putting ourselves in other peoples’ shoes by listening and learning.  

There is a right and wrong perspective.  First, hopefully, you can get to see the perspective the what makes you truly rich in life is filling it with things that matter, not the things that’ll soon fade away and lose their luster.  Seek first your own little world and your own circle of influencers and you will continually strive for the next thing.  Seek first God’s kingdom and all of the things in life that we tend to worry about will be taken care of and we will experience contentment and peace of eternal significance. See Matthew 6:25-34, Philippians 4:4-9, and Ecclesiastes 2:18-26 for some more good perspective.

Monday, December 12, 2022

The Religion of the NFL


 Believe it or not, this is not a piece that will vilify the NFL.  I don't have time to stand in that line of "enemies of the NFL," which is a religion of its own.  Plus, that line is long enough and, admittedly, I kind of like football and am a die hard Bronco fan.  

The National Football League reached a low in 2016-2017 in viewership of only 14.9 million per game, down 10% from the previous year due to many issues, mainly on the political front.  The next off-season the Supreme Court opened the door for the expansion of gambling on sporting events.  Viewership had risen every year from then until the 2021-2022 season.  Though less have watched over the past two years, gambling has more than doubled over the past two years!  One way or another, the NFL has a pull, a draw, an addicting nature to it, it seems.

People are looking for something to follow, to run to, to fall back on in the midst of a world that is growing increasingly tiring and hateful.  Religion, simply put, is man's way of making sense of things, or of getting to God, if your one to believe that God makes sense of things.  In my case, a biblically-accurate Christianity is how I "get to God."  By God's grace in sending Jesus into the world to die for the world's sins, He has opened the door for all who repent of the their sins and believe by faith in the person and work of Jesus to have eternal life.  In other words, it wasn't my effort that saved me, it was God's actions towards me.

What is your way of making sense of things?  Maybe you dive into your job, or a hobby, or your family.  Maybe your stuck in an unhealthy cycle of drug, alcohol, porn, or gambling addiction?  Maybe it's your relationship with God that is bringing you perspective?  Everybody has something they default to, or numerous things that compete for their attention.  The NFL is an easy way to fill that void, to be sure, yet it still falls short.  Even if you increase your interest in the NFL by betting or doing fantasy football or building a friend group around your team, it still will always fall short of making sense of things.  As I've argued earlier, football holds some great life lessons in it, both for fans and players.  Also, it's a blast to follow the story-lines and the unpredictable nature of almost any game (hey, my Broncos almost pulled off an upset and scored four touchdowns in one game, so anything is possible).  Yet, the NFL, nor anything else that briefly distracts us from the world, will ever truly help us.

Each person needs something that will fulfill their expectations of creating lasting purpose, giving real peace, and producing joy beyond your circumstances.  A religion CAN NOT do this because religion will always be centered on OUR EFFORTS.  Yes, there are certain Christian efforts that unintentionally make it all about us.  Yet, the essence of Christianity is not a religion, but a lifestyle of following Jesus and making Him our aim, our focus, our Lord.  Whatever you default to . . . how's that working for you?  

"And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose."  Romans 8:28 nails it!  His purpose for us is our best purpose ever.  Go ahead and dive into whatever healthy job or hobby you have.  Go ahead and get the help you need to get away from the unhealthy coping mechanisms you have.  But do it all while telling God, often, that He's your focus, your favorite, your Lord.