I'm sick and tired of the duplicity going on in our society; the two-facedness regarding sexual immorality.
On the one hand, we are legitimately and rightfully up in arms about the sexual harassment we see in the headlines. We should speak out against it and it should be made public and we should take steps to get rid of it in all facets of our society. Yet, we will not get rid of it until we stop turning a blind eye to pornography.
We practically celebrated Hugh Heffner after he died. What has he added to our society? I (and many others) would say he has destroyed our society before he has added any single thing. He has legitimized pornography in our society and has introduced many people, young and old, to things that ought not be for public consumption. What has happened? We have become, in essence, a sexualized culture.
Before I make this next point, I must clarify that every wrong action has personal responsibility involved in it. Yet, we cannot ignore the things in our culture that contribute to sexual harassment and date rape and the irresponsible, unhealthy sexual habits of many. With all the images and sexual content in print media, TV, movies, and the internet, it's no wonder that men have a fantasy that all women want them. Men have been convinced that they can have whomever they want at whatever time they want. Just this morning, there was a study connecting pornography to the change of peoples' approach to relationship. Most of us do not need an official study to prove that.
For example, we allow things like the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit issue and celebrate models that have finally made it to the cover. We say that it's all good even though SI sells loads of ads for this issue for one main reason - these women wear next to nothing and have bodies that few women can live up to - adding to the fantasy world that contributes to the problem.
The problem? We are introducing boys of all ages to view women as objects to be had, not people to be respected. Not only that, but these boys are being raised by dads who grew up in a culture where Playboy is normal, where music videos regularly feature women dancing in all kinds of sexually suggestive ways, and where Madonna is lauded for being "honest about her sexuality." Now, artists like Miley Cyrus lose their innocence before our very eyes and not only do we not blink but we "reward" such public sensuality. Miley gathers her riches and receives applause for humanitarian efforts while she's not held responsible for the road she leads our young girls down .
So are we OK with never addressing the reason why many people go down that road of sexual harassment and an almost uncontrolled sex life? Do we really want to know why seemingly normal men have a fantasy life that every person would be shocked by? Yes, even as a pastor, I know what I'm talking about (end of part 1).